Sexy For "You": Physical or Something More

[StephSim]

When we look at others (be it romantically or just in general), "looks" do play a part in how we perceive them. We have varying opinions and feelings about what is or isn't attractive or sexy. Sometimes it is about looks. Sometimes it is about mannerisms. Sometimes it is about behavior. Sometimes it is about the clothing people wear. With all these things in mind (and other things you may think of)...I wanted to ask 2 questions of everyone.

***QUESTIONS EDITED***

1) What makes a woman and/or a man attractive and/or sexy to you? Is attraction about looks or something more?

2) What makes YOU feel sexy or attractive? Is your sense of attraction about looks or something more?

NOTE: Keep in mind that "attraction" does not necessarily mean that you are interested in "dating" the person- but more about what makes the person appealing to you. Also, I cannot assume sexual preference, so I intentionally made the first question more open ended. Answer your truth or at your comfort level. These questions are more about what we find appealing as people and not so much about sexual preference. :)

[Doc Doofus]

I think we can all agree that the one thing, more than any other, that makes a woman irresistible to a man, is a really big bush. (http://mchristi.wso.net/fig_tree2.jpg)

[Oaktree]

1) What makes a woman attractive and/or sexy to you?

2) What makes a man attractive and/or sexy to you?

1) I don't really look at women in the light of potential romantic partners, and my standards of beauty are rather broad, so I don't think I could give a very constructive answer to this one. Basically, I can find something interesting or beautiful in anyone's features.

2) I am generally more attracted to intelligence, personality, and mannerisms, as opposed to physical appearance. I'm not totally insensitive to appearance and some men are more attractive than others; I simply find that the strongest cases of attraction for me come from men with more than just good looks. I also find that my taste in physical appearance is quite different from "the norm" for other girls I know, but I really can't exactly pinpoint how. The only preference I can really point to about physical features is a preference for above-average height, as I am 5'8" myself and I would prefer someone my height or taller. As far as mental characteristics are concerned, I am most attracted to intelligence, deep thinking, and an absurd sense of humor. I don't know if I could really point out much beyond that, as I am very inexperienced with romantic relationships, so I haven't really had the opportunity to fully determine what I would want in a romantic partner.

[Oaktree]

I would be about the same except I like a good looking man. I have to like his whole package including appearance other wise I have a hard time being attracted to some one. If you are going to be married to them and have sex with them you better be attracted to them. :rofl:

Height isn't a big deal for me as much as his face. I like an attractive man with a nice face, nice respectful personality, good sense of humor not a dirty one, not some one who is going to drag me down in what I find most important.

Some men can drag you down, rather then be good for you on all levels. Some one who see's a healthy balance and some one whom you can work though things with when it comes to issues if you have to because we all have our own baggage.

That's the thing, though. I can be attracted to someone without it being an attraction to their physical characteristics. I find that when I am mentally attracted to someone, they become more physically attractive.

I also find facial features a big part of physical attractiveness. Particularly eyes. There are a variety of eye shapes and colors that I find attractive. I prefer a man with a classier sense of humor, but I don't mind the occasional dirty joke myself, so a man with a dirty sense of humor wouldn't bug me unless he was telling dirty jokes all the time.

[J. M. Pescado]

1) What makes a woman attractive and/or sexy to you?Beefy arm, exceptional health, toughness, and assorted attributes, intelligence, and the ability to kill a man in over 30 different ways using only her thumbs.

2) What makes a man attractive and/or sexy to you? I'm not really into men, so I'll give you my wife's list: Apparently, she prefers men with much of the same as above, with the addition of "money". In the absence of any of the above, she prefers one has good taste and isn't too stringy.

[darkwytche2006]

The way a man walks and holds himself, and beautiful eyes. Its what draws me to a guy. After that is good personal hygiene, even if he's Brad Pitt but sexier and charming as hell if he hasn't washed in a few days - no thanks. A man has to be charming and have something about him that makes your heart beat harder. He doesn't have to be a model in looks.

[innocenteyes]

Hmmm

1. I have never been with a women but I do find myself attractred toa very elite few. I dont really know what attracts me to them. There has only been like 2 or 3 that I had felt attracted too. The only thing the 3 had in common were their personalities. All of them had outstandingly friendly personalities. Though one did have have some beautiful eyes. They were like a wolfs blue eyes.

2. Wellin men I dont like them to be really built. I dont like tall men. I am only 5'2 so tall men just dont do it for me. I like to see a nice smile. Hygene too is abig factor. Smell also drives me. I dont like them to be overly handsome either. I prefer men that are more adverage looking. They also have to be funny. I love to laugh and a man that cant make me laugh isnt worth my time. A job is important to me also. So I guess to sum up- A job, good hygene, pretty smile(teeth also), Not to handsome and average built, great peraonlity, and funny, Oh I dont like shy either. I hate when I go out and my boyfriend wont talk to my friends boyfriends.

[StephSim]

I edited the questions a bit for clarity. I see it was causing a bit of confusion.

Doc Dufus
:lol: - Cute. Although "a big bush" would be handy for those of us who like our privateSee!

Cyberian_Trooper
Girlfriend you like to give too much information :blink: ...Of course, I've come to expect that from you! ;) It's like walking around in your head. So...I'll summarize...***no throwing things at me like I'm freakin' Moaning Myrtle*** :lol: So...you thought a woman you knew with a "nice figure" and "a large bosom" was nice looking. You are attracted to guys who "respect women", who don't have "a potty mouth", who doesn't "act like he is John Travolta Revolting where he thinks he can get any woman he wants like he's God's gift to women" and who "shows some dignity towards himself as well as others". Oh yeah...and he can definitely not be a "mommy's boy".


OakTree
As I read your answer...I was thinking this is great question to get your thoughts stirred about what makes someone attractive to you romantically. I know what you mean about intelligence, moreso than appearance...I believe that people (especially women) who "think too much" (I'm sure you've heard that one) actually need to be with someone who is at least of equal intelligence. It really makes a difference in the long run for so many reasons. Besides...intelligence itself is very attractive!

J. M. Pescado
:rofl: Great stuff...I was thinking of the quintessential Amazonian! :) Many people cannot handle that in reality. They want it, get it and then seek to change it into something soft and compliant! So to say this...you really must mean it! :up:

darkwytche
When you said "the way a man walks"...my mind went into watching a guy suavely strolling across the carpet, his stride in his shoulders as he casually crossed one foot over the other...I think I saw a model in a romance novel. :) Seriously though... I can see that. It's a little different for me, but I can relate to the way a man walks most definitely. And it's interesting you should mention personal hygiene...I grew up with brothers and an uncle who were obsessive about their personal hygience and appearance. They used to take just as much (if not more time) in the bathroom than the women in our family. My brother even had an eyebrow grooming routine. So, the sweaty - thrown together thing isn't all that attractive to me. What can I say? I've been programmed!

innocenteyes
I was thinking about what features I find attractive in other women...At first, I was in the mindset that the features I like in other women would be things I envied since I am not sexually attracted to women persay. But... I'm sure that I wouldn't like flowy dark hair and light coloured eyes for myself. Personality wise...in general...I think women like to hang with other women who are like they are or exact opposites of who they are. You can tell a lot about a person based on who they hang with. As for your "ideal" man...knowing what you don't like is important...Although I imagine when the preferences and dislikes lists get too long...it will be difficult to find every feature in one person....My mind is wondering...sorry...My point was...It is good to know what you like and dislike in a potential mate because sometimes there are qualities you won't know about until you are deeply invested into the relationship and ultimately you have to learn what things you can actually live with as a part of another's personality and which things are deal breakers as they say! ;)

Totally unrelated ASIDE...when do we stop using the words "boyfriend" and "girlfriend"? I find it mind blowing when anyone older than 25 uses those words to introduce their significant other. I prefer putting "my" in front of a guy's name...not to be possessive, but because I grew to find it awkward as I got older to call a man "boyfriend". I also have said "lover", "beloved"...anything but "boyfriend". I was actually happy to be engaged because at least then I could say fiancé. Is it just me?

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Don't worry...While I typically respond to every remark in my "Sim" download threads...I will only comment on remarks that stir me in one way or another from this point on. I guess because I changed the questions a bit...I wanted to validate that what was written was read and appreciated. Feel free to add/share comments about what makes "YOU" feel attractive if you already posted.

I'll answer the questions at another time. :)

[innocenteyes]

StephinSim- I dont think I am picky when it comes to guys, but I know what I like and dont and I dont mind being single until I find that right guy. That being said, I am engaged but I still call him my boyfriend and also fiance. He does as well. I dont know why we still call eachother both of them. *ponders why*

[lovetadraw]

You can't try to be sexy, either you are, or you aren't. IMO. Same as elegance, don't "try", be.

[Doc Doofus]

The epitome of female beauty. Everything else is just window dressing

http://hairstylequestions.com/wp-content/uploads/hairy-lady.jpg

Why can't we have Sims this beautiful?

[cdanon]

1) What makes a woman and/or a man attractive and/or sexy to you?
Humor,compassion,politeness, philosophical, daydreamers

2) What makes YOU feel sexy or attractive? When I can get a laugh or a smile from a person, more of a comfort than an attraction, so comfort becomes sexy.

[Charmful]

Laughter.
There are conventional pretty people but they aren't attractive until they make me laugh, or are found to possess a random quirk that will make me laugh and think their unique.
Someone not so easy on looks seems to grow more appealing as we share laughs.

I feel attractive all the time because I know I can make people laugh. I feel sexy when my hair is straightened though, because it is frizzy. Always.

[KyleTheArtist]

Being yourself and not trying to be a macho or some one famous or a wannabe is very very sexy :D

[supersimoholic]

1) What makes a woman and/or a man attractive and/or sexy to you?
A real sense of humour paired with a true sense of kindness can make almost any man attractive to me.

2) What makes YOU feel sexy or attractive?
I haven't felt either of those things in a long time... My boyfriend tells me constantly that I am in his eyes and I do believe him but I can't stand myself (physically) I just feel so ugly in every way. As a result our "private" life has suffered. I'm just lucky that Lee doesn't force me to do anything I don't want to do, and he says it doesn't bother him, but I can't help but fell guilty. I don't know what would make me feel sexy... maybe some nice clothes in my size? It's not fair how there is only ugly unflattering clothes for bigger women (at least where I live, and my family doesn't have a car so we can't go too far)
I will stop my rant now.

[KyleTheArtist]

I erased what I said and maybe I shouldn't have said it. I am not going through a very good time right now sorry. I think I am going to disappear for a while till this blows over. I don't think this thread is helpful for me at all. :(

I think this is much better or at least mite cheer things up a bit. I love this it is so cute. :bunny:

Pucca Funny Love Season 1-Ep6-Pt3-Slam Bam Birthday Bash
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lFcoMxQJ-Wg&feature=related

I had no clue what your other message that that is why i did not reply, because it confused the heck outta me.

[Doddibot]

1) A girl is attractive if she looks good (which is subjective, I know). I guess it's the typical things - pretty face, low amount of body fat, naturalness (no obvious cosmetic surgery, makeup, painted nails...ugh).

Importantly, she has to have sensible beliefs. Feminist, atheist, utilitarian ethics, etc. As Judge Judy says, beauty fades but dumb is forever. :p

2) I feel sexy only insofar as other people consider me sexy. Except they keep that to themselves, and I'm hopeless at picking up on any 'signals'.

[SuicidiaParasidia]

how is this really a debate thread?

1) What makes a woman and/or a man attractive and/or sexy to you?

hmmm....well, many things.
definitely his hair. im automatically biased toward guys with longer hair as opposed to men with shorter hair. to me, shorter hair just makes them look older...and...dating grandpa is not what i have in mind. if he wants to go bald, he should wait a while like the rest of 'em. *curt nod*
dark eyes. oooo, theyre enchanting to look at. and i HATE meeting eyes with people, so thats something. lighter eyes tend to freak me out, or i pay them very little attention.
im more drawn to someone with an air of calm, than someone who freaks out when theyre bored, or gets restless and has to move all the time. i guess that would be opposites attracting.
its always a plus when we share my favorite interests: cats, video games, and fashion.
a good sense of style is paramount to his/her ultimate acceptance. everyone has their preferred "look"s... i tend to be drawn toward the more gothic/punk fashion. i dont like emo clothes--too tight, and everyone looks bad in skinny jeans...especially men. xD
but of course if he isnt the edgy type, thats fine too, anything casual thats easy on the eyes is acceptable as well.
im very picky. xD
i dont find height all that attractive. in fact, i kinda like shorter guys. they dont tend to have the whole " im the macho male " thing as much as taller guys seem to. *repulsed shudder*
i like guys/gals who treat me like an equal. i hate being treated better or worse.
i love if they have a nice smile. a genuine one--not all fake n cheesy like how you would for a school photo.
voice pitch can add to the attraction. i like a guy with a nice voice--not too deep, not too high, just kinda laid back and mellow... the type of voice that could comfort you into sleeping where you sit. for girls, the valley girl/obnoxiously fem voice is a put-off, but pretty much anything else goes.
i find i tend to examine women more emotionally, whereas men i examine more physically. *shrug* its weird, im weird.

2) What makes YOU feel sexy or attractive?

i dont. im modest. ...perhaps far too modest for my own good. that, and my brothers did a damn fine job of stamping out any hopes of self esteem ( those wounds went un-nursed by myself, and further deepened by my parents on occasion )...so i pretty much never felt openly desirable.
to anyone, including myself. i guess thats sort of a good thing though? ekh.
youll just never catch me wearing anything that says " diva " or " princess " on it.
i only ever seem to feel terribly embarrassed or awkward around someone ive decided is attractive or whom i like. i become insanely critical of my every move. i almost trip; end of the world. my hair was sticking up in a strange place; must commit ritual suicide. theres a stain on my clothes somewhere, however unnoticeable? i'll be in the closet over there, crying my eyes out.
yeah.
i have issues. xD
my feelings of sexy usually only come out with a bottle of whiskey and my mp3 player.

[Oaktree]

2) What makes YOU feel sexy or attractive?


I suppose I'll answer the new question.

I don't really feel attractive. Physically, I think my only attractive feature is my hip-length auburn hair. I have been overweight my whole life, and I was teased about it up through middle school. I don't have especially attractive facial features. I'm not very graceful. I'm generally a very reserved person. I'm terrible at making jokes. I think my main saving graces are intelligence and a philosophical outlook.

I realize that a lot of my thoughts about myself are probably irrational, so I try not to be down on myself all the time. In fact, I'm not usually thinking about whether I'm attractive; it only comes up when I find that I am attracted to someone else. My self-esteem has improved over the years to the point that I no longer feel like I have no chance at a relationship whatsoever, but I still doubt myself a lot.


i dont find height all that attractive. in fact, i kinda like shorter guys. they dont tend to have the whole " im the macho male " thing as much as taller guys seem to. *repulsed shudder*


I've found the opposite from most of the guys I've met. Usually the taller guys are more laid back and don't try as hard to be macho, while the shorter guys feel they have to overcompensate.

[StephSim]

Alrighty then....:blink:

Originally when I posted the questions, I was thinking that individuals have differing views of what is attractive or sexy. I wanted to see a broader perspective on what people truly find sexy in others and also in the self outside of others. I suspected the responses would be all over the place but would shed light on the idea that what we personally find attractive is not necessarily what others find attractive.

I asked my husband: "In all honesty, what makes me attractive to you." He said...foremost my intelligence and sense of humour...and my creativity...but also my face, (especially my smile and my eyes) and my of course...my voluptuousness (which is definitely in the eyes of the beholder). :rofl:

As I read through the responses...I noticed that the question on "self-attractiveness" seems to bring out a sense of self-depreciation in many females who posted a reply. Even I downplay the idea of being seen as sexy sometimes...because it still at times makes me quite uncomfortable (but for different reasons)...I realize we are being honest about how we see ourselves...but while many of us (both men and women) say things like 'beauty is skin deep' - sadly the images we see in the media/magazines and other people's opinions of us (whether directly stated or assumed) tends to have a bigger control over personal concepts of beauty than we care to admit (especially for us females). For me...as I'm on an extended quest of self discovery...I am learning to release external views of my beauty, sexiness and attractiveness as not necessarily irrelevant...but as distant seconds behind how I see myself really.

As for the responses in general...it is good to see that most of us are aware of the things that we find attractive in others and that it is not all physical. Oddly enough...sense of humour seems to be a big plus. I know this is true for me because one-on-one...I've been told quite often it is one of my most treasured qualities...Thank God there are others...:)

BTW - Since you asked SuicidiaParasidia , the actual debate intent is more subtle than direct as we know debate is not ONLY about pure argument (although it can become literal knock down fights over opinions)...but also about differing thoughts...basically the intended focus was if beauty, attraction and being sexy are more about the physical or something more (questions edited to give it more of a debate feel). Thanks. :up:

At any rate... I shall answer the 2 questions now...

QUESTION # 1:
What makes a woman and/or a man attractive and/or sexy to you? Is attraction about looks or something more?

Personal Ideals of Female Attractiveness
What makes women attractive to me is when they are dressed in a way and carry themselves in a way that exudes their confidence. In my friendships with women, I tend to love being around women who are very confident about who they are or women who are kind natured...both personality aspects I like to think I possess. I also like to be around women who are not 'too serious' or 'self-absorbed' in superficial ways where every conversation centers around the topics of 'hair, make-up, children, clothes, shoes, boyfriends, etc. So, I guess that I prefer to be around women who are well-rounded! As I am not interested in women sexually, I don't find women "sexy" persay...although I do have what I see as an artistic appreciation for certain aspects of female beauty...full lips, slightly slanted eyes, dark hair, light coloured eyes, porcelain skin, even toned skin (of all shades), etc. I do often take notice of specific physical features in women that I find attractive or beautiful. What can I say... I appreciate features of beauty regardless of who possess them. :)

With my female relationships...looks have very little to do with why I am attracted to them.

Personal Ideals of Male Attractiveness and Sexiness
With men...it's a variety of things.

Intelligence is a definite turn-on for me (especially if he is more intelligent than I am...that way I can acquire his knowledge and add it to mine):giggler: , self-confidence that doesn't cross over into pure arrogance too often (It's alright on occassion to be cocky! :lol:), a sense of humour or the ability to appreciate gentle humour and to laugh at himself, open-mindedness, a man who doesn't mind talking about his past life (childhood, family, experiences), kindness and consideration outside of self, respectful (especially of women) with a dash of chivalry is nice (opening doors and such as an act of genuine appreciation for the mere fact that I am indeed a woman), a bit androgynous (meaning that he is comfortable with his masculinity and does not feel the need to be overly "macho" in every given moment), has a spiritual center (not religious...but a grounded spirituality about life, nature and people in relationship to the self), believes in self-care (to include personal hygiene and enjoying the fruits of one's labour), etc.

As for the physical attractions...I love a well dressed man (suits on occassion is nice, but not required :giggler: - basically a man who wears things that compliment his body). I love a man who has a face that is full of expression and character, especially eyes. The colour of the eyes is not so important, but the life that exists behind those eyes is. I love strong shoulder lines (not bulky...just somewhat defined). I love hands that are bigger than mine, stronger but gentle when touching.

I've also come to appreciate the quirky things my husband says or does as part of his unique attractiveness. The way he holds his hands when he is thinking, the way he paces when he is trying to surprise me, the way his face lights up when he sees me...the little things that make him quite adorable and attractive to me.

A man is sexy to me when he is confident (without being overly cocky), intelligent, romantic on occassion without being prompted and sure of who he is outside of "normal" societal views.

With men...I think because there is that "chemical" attraction...the physical attraction is a must on some level. Overall though...I treasure the non-physical elements foremost. For me, the physical things are not deal breakers...but some of the non-physical things are...(especially a man being kind, respectful of women and open-minded). Oddly enough age and wealth haven't been mentioned at all thus far...but for me I have to say I prefer a man who has strong work ethics and who plans for the future. Age, ethnicity, weight (as long as it is not a health risk or the body building types)...are not so relevant to me. Besides...sometimes when deep love finds you...you may find yourself re-evaluating what is/isn't attractive! :)

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innocenteyes
I wasn't saying that you were being picky...I was just saying that when you are selective...you have to be careful you are not shutting out love for perfection. As you can see I have quite a few "preferences" myself. I don't see what you said as being picky necessarily. To me picky is a more extreme version of being selective. Picky is when you have such an outrageous list and expect that all things on the list must be in order for you to be with a person. I just think it is good to know what you like and are attracted to for yourself because in that way you will seek out these characteristics in potential mates instead of "falling into" relationships. These things don't have to be "rules" or strict "guidelines" - just a starting point for meeting someone who you have the potential to be compatible with.

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QUESTION # 2:
What makes YOU feel sexy or attractive? Is your sense of attraction about looks or something more?

This topic has been quite a whirlwind for me in my lifetime. I have always struggled with my sense of self (moreso in belonging...not so much about looks). My weight is not socially ideal, but I myself am quite comfortable with it as long as I eat healthy and exercise to counter it taking over my life. I am full-figured, but very curvy (hour-glass figure). Because of sexual abuse issues...I used to try to hide my "sexiness" by wearing things that were not flattering at all. Now, I wear things that celebrate my beauty and compliment my shape. I used to hide in black, dark colours and wear sacks for clothing...but no more. While I may not represent "ideal" beauty, I know I am a very beautiful person. When I look in the mirror, I love who I see reflected back. Do I have imperfections...of course...but I don't feel they define who I am physically as a whole and I try not to wear things that hi-lite these imperfections (with the exception of gym clothing).

In coming to terms with who I am totally...I realized that I like my physical self...what was difficult is separating what other people think of the physical me (especially in a world where beauty is not defined by character, darker skin and being full-figured). I had to learn to separate what society, men and even friends feel about my appearance from how I feel about myself. Once I did that, I began to truly see all the things about me that make me beautiful and all else is noise.

As for what makes me feel sexy/attractive...
1. I feel sexy and attractive based on what I'm wearing and my mood in any given moment.
(when I am wearing the right clothing for my body type, when I am all "dolled-up", when I am wearing the most feminine of clothing --not tight, revealing things, but sexy, girly things--, wearing vibrant colours and flowy dresses, wearing an oversized man's tee-shirt and nothing else, wearing my hair in a variety of styles, wearing the perfect make-up and sometimes no make-up at all, wearing simple jewelry, being barefoot, wearing something sheer in the house and nothing else, when I wear summer dresses, etc.

2. Being in a loving relationship makes me feel attractive/sexy.
being in a relationship where I love who I am and the person I am becoming as a result of the relationship / being in love with a man who really loves me for who I am / being with a man who helps me to grow as a person / being with a man who helps me see my total beauty

3. (MOST IMPORTANTLY) - Knowing who I am and loving myself makes me feel attractive and sexy.
I see myself as confident, artistic, philosophical and flawed...but I love who I am regardless. That in and of itself makes me feel very attractive. I can't quite explain it...it just is.

My personal sense of being sexy or attractive centers around how I feel about myself as well as my making it a priority to look my physical best on the outside. Having support from people who love you beyond the physical is also a wonderful thing too. So I guess my feeling attractive or sexy is a blend of physical and non-physical things, but moreso about what I feel from within.

Now as for "acting" sexy and attractive...Acting sexy is trying to be something that you are not to please others. I do believe that being sexy is about being confident with who you are.

[Elyasis]

1) What makes a woman and/or a man attractive and/or sexy to you? Is attraction about looks or something more?
It's much the same for both genders for me. I'm attracted to confidence, intelligence, wit, and self reliance. The way someone looks is is relevant but ever changing. My preferences are mostly on the emotional level. When someone actually looks at me with interest to what I'm saying is a major draw. Plus if they can engage me themselves and show a bit of wicked humor. Ah, I'm in love. Physically I have a preference for nerdy thin men and voluptuous kittenish women. It's hard to explain. I like many things, some of them are conflicting. It honestly happens on a person by person basis. It's just like, *snap* that's one attractive individual. Date please? ;P


2) What makes YOU feel sexy or attractive? Is your sense of attraction about looks or something more?
When I make someone a gibbering mess. Or render them speechless with a simple look. I love getting compliments on my attributes and it does bolster my self esteem. Getting to dress up and go out on the town and receiving appreciative looks. Nothing makes me feel worse than when the looks become a little too appreciative though. I love when someone just wants to watch my face. I've been told I have a very expressive face. Anyway, I just like being appreciated for who I am. I know I am sexy without it but it's always nice to get compliments.

[lovetadraw]

All about personality. Watch a movie with an actor/actress you like, then find a movie where they play a horrible bitch/bastard.

[Elyasis]

Sometimes mean people can make meanness work for them. :D

[lovetadraw]

See, my parents hate me for this, but my future spouse being a christian ain't a big deal to me. As long as they are not like... Eating babies (there is a gross hack on this site for that, yuk), I don't care.

[Bailey Weggins]

1) What makes a woman and/or a man attractive and/or sexy to you? Is attraction about looks or something more?
I don't have any preferences, looks-wise, except that I find tall men sexy and red hair not so sexy.
As for a man's personality, ideals are very important to me. Can't be with a man who betrays his ideals or doesn't have any in the first place.
Also, I like bravery as in not looking away when someone gets beaten up in the subway. Since I myself am a bit grumpy, my boyfriend has to be jolly (funny word).
Other than that, the usual stuff like intelligence, good sense of humor, self-confidence.

2) What makes YOU feel sexy or attractive? Is your sense of attraction about looks or something more?
Hm. When I'm happy and at peace with the world and myself, people smile at me. When I have a crappy day, they don't.
Many women like to dress sexy and be looked at. I don't. Maybe some day, when I've been married for 20 years and my husband barely looks at me anymore, I'll enjoy an occasional look by another man ;)

[lovetadraw]

What makes me feel sexy? Most of what people compliment me on is what I hate when I look in a mirror. Short, muscular, NOBODY agrees on whether my eyes are green or blue but people still say they are pretty, I don't really get why anyone would be attracted to me. I'm a horrible person, I hold grudges forever, I enjoy hurting peoples feelings when they (likely by accident) hurt mine. I don't get why, but people still like/love me. Course I also wish people would keep their hands off me :lol: . no really, people always try to fondle me, it's gross. Though, I guess it still says I'm hot... Either that or I come off sleazy. I really don't know what make me feel sexy, because I'm not, I never try to be, because I never will be.