Do you ever feel like...

[Seductivedreamz818]

do you ever feel like as soon as you get your life going the way you want it and everything is on the right track, you somehow get derailed? This post is my way of venting, but comments and advice are welcomed and appreciated. So I finally get a new car (well new used car) and everything starts looking up, I am working steady, my home life is good, and then all of a sudden boom... chaos. My car fails state vehicle inspection so i have to take the tags off and park it, then work starts to slow down, I finally get almost everything on the car fixed and only need just a tire to get it to pass inspection and then work screeches to a halt, my whole company has been out of work for over a month now, then to top it off my uncle who I am living with right now gets laid off of work and now might have to move out of state, which means I am going to have to attempt to find somewhere else to live, and on top of that if it does happen I wont have any way to get to work so I will lose the only job I have (even though right now I am not working anyway) Can things get any better? why is it that life has to be a roller coaster and have ups and downs. why cant it just have ups and stay that way?

[Darby]

Can things get any better? why is it that life has to be a roller coaster and have ups and downs. why cant it just have ups and stay that way?

Things can certainly get better, and they will. Then they'll go to shit again, then get better again, and this will continue throughout your life. The details will change as your life circumstances change, but these ups and downs are a part of everyone's lives, if they're lucky.

Low points in your life are very valuable! If everything was hunky-dory all the time, you'd be bored and unappreciative of the constant high. Human nature is such that we see and appreciate what we have a whole lot more when we have to do without it now and then. The person who has always had everything they ever needed will take take it all for granted, whereas the person who's homeless (whether on the street, or crashing on someone else's couch) and isn't sure where his/her next meal is coming from learns very thoroughly the sheer and utter joys of things as simple as a real bed to sleep in, a toilet, running water, privacy, and a fridge with a week's worth of food in it.

It sucks while you're there, to be sure, but the place you're in now is a place you'll look back on not, perhaps, with fondness, but hopefully with gratitude for an experience that pushed your life in directions you would never have anticipated, but that you can't imagine wanting to have been any different now. You may find a line of work that suits you better. You might even find your calling! You'll learn creative ways of managing your money. You may end up on the couch of someone who becomes a lifelong best friend. Or maybe it'll be a nightmare from which you'll gain unexpected personal growth that'll carry you through future experiences for which you'd have been unprepared otherwise.

Most importantly, this tough time you're having now will (one hopes) make you a more compassionate person. This may not be for you so much as for someone else to whom you'll be able to make a difference in the future. To me, that's what it's all about. Not living a life of unrelieved highs, which would just make me a useless, self-indulgent, totally egocentric boob with no understanding of others' struggles, but someone who's been through enough to be able to have compassion for, and can thus meaningfully connect with, the people with whom I go through life, whether we're talking people I've known since childhood, or someone I have only ever have one brief encounter with.

Don't wait until things are better to start being grateful for what you do still have now, even though things are rough. It may help, too, to plan for the worst-case scenario. Start looking for other jobs. Consider who might be willing and able to take you in for awhile if you find yourself without housing. Consider things you've never considered before, like perhaps moving to another state altogether. LOOK for opportunities, broaden the options you're willing to entertain, and doors will open.

This CAN be an adventure rather than a disaster, if you shift your focus just a little bit. :)

[Yazoo]

Hun, let me start off with, I'm sorry. I really am. And I do wish things will get better and begin to look up for you. On that note, I will say this:

Things will get better, they will. And it does suck that life is such a roller coaster, sometimes I wish I was an actress or a musician, because I can say money will buy happiness, but it doesn't, does it? Unfortunately, it doesn't. I know how suckey life can get. Believe me.

When I was in high school, I was bullied to where I was suicidal, to where I hated looking at myself in the mirror (Still do). To this day, I have only...Like maybe three friends, that actually care about me. The rest have used me. I have Epilepsy, and it sucks. I know how it feels to have no job, I have been jobless for two years now.

But I am going to tell you something. Don't give up. And be strong. Life may look like utter sh*t right now, but don't throw in the towel. Because if you do then your life goes into a downward spiral of depressing. But if you stand up, and stay strong. Then you will just prove this, huge bump in the road is just that, a bump. You can climb hills, or even mountains, as long as you keep your head up high, and say:

"Though my life is utter crap today, it can only get better tomorrow. I just have to continue to be strong! And I know I am strong!"

So stay strong hun, don't let this cruel and heartless world take the very breath you work so hard to retain. Be strong.

Nevermore Raven

[Seductivedreamz818]

Thank you so much everyone for your comments and support. I am sure things will get better as time goes on and I am currently seeking other employment. I just really needed to vent and it did make me feel much better to just put out how I feel. To be completely honest I didn't expect anyone to really reply to this thread (kinda used to being ignored) and am very grateful for the words of wisdom and support that I received on here. People have put me down for a lot over the years and it is nice to have replies that are kind and considerate and help build me back up. Thank you darby and raven very much, you have made my day a whole lot better

[crocobaura]

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You should start looking for a new job, or a part time job, especially since you say you don't have much work to do these days on your regular job. Don't wait until they formally lay you off if you think that's where things are headed. As for the out of work part, have you checked with your colleagues or employers if this lack of work is perhaps seasonal? There are businesses that run like that, where things are occasionally slow.




Most importantly, this tough time you're having now will (one hopes) make you a more compassionate person.

Lots of BS. You can only be compassionate if your basic needs have been met. You can't think much of someone else's hunger when you're hungry yourself.

[Darby]

Lots of BS. You can only be compassionate if your basic needs have been met. You can't think much of someone else's hunger when you're hungry yourself.

I didn't mean now. Having experienced deprivation makes it possible to empathize with others later.

Although, I think it's awfully cynical to think that someone who's currently having a hard time is incapable of having compassion for another while still in dire straits themselve. They may lack the ability to help the others' situation, but an understanding ear is always possible.

[crocobaura]

I didn't mean now. Having experienced deprivation makes it possible to empathize with others later.

Although, I think it's awfully cynical to think that someone who's currently having a hard time is incapable of having compassion for another while still in dire straits themselve. They may lack the ability to help the others' situation, but an understanding ear is always possible.


Having experienced deprivation hardens someone, it doesn't necessarily make one compassionate. Also, comapassion alone does not help, not when you're living on the streets, depending on strangers for your food and good luck for adequate health and still being alive.

[366alexandra]

It's an adventure who is going to happen even if you like it or not... There's no escape and the only thing you can do is to live with it. Remember that there's always someone who probably has it worse. (Sorry if my english is bad...)

[Yazoo]

Thank you so much everyone for your comments and support. I am sure things will get better as time goes on and I am currently seeking other employment. I just really needed to vent and it did make me feel much better to just put out how I feel. To be completely honest I didn't expect anyone to really reply to this thread (kinda used to being ignored) and am very grateful for the words of wisdom and support that I received on here. People have put me down for a lot over the years and it is nice to have replies that are kind and considerate and help build me back up. Thank you darby and raven very much, you have made my day a whole lot better

No matter where you look there will always be people that are willing to talk to you, and be there for you. And believe me the ignoring thing, yeah I know how you feel. But to be put down its always hard to get back on, well, cliche as this may sound on the horse again. That builds low self-esteem because some loser has to make someone else's life lower because they want to feel better about themselves. Is it right? To them it is. To the person that is being put down? No. Not at all.

And hun, you do not have to thank me. I am just here to help. And if you ever need someone to talk too, drop me a line. I will answer back :) I am like on everyday :D

And just remember, you have been put down. But in the long run. You will be the one to stand up high, and they? They will probably working as a gas attendant for the rest of their lives, wondering why its this way.

Your better than them, and they are just that small bump. So, never give up, and stay strong. :) There are others that will come and talk to you. And reach out their hand, and ask:

"Do you need help up?"

And that is their way of saying:

"Here let me help you up, and know that I will be there for you."

[Hammerhead Eagle i-Thrust]

Sorry your troubles have been piling on. This is gonna be kinda corny but this has helped me out alot:

http://vimeo.com/27933991

It just reminds me that if i want something theres always options if I put the time and effort in. Like my brother, hes making alot of money off amazon while working and studying full time at UC Berkeley. I can't say I'm as capable as him but when I'm trying to make stuff happen and it starts getting rough, I keep my goals in mind and just think, "How bad do I want this?" Usually I pull out alright but when I don't, no biggie people have gotten through harder things and I plan on being one of those people.

Lol see, told you it was gonna be cheesy :anime:

[Seductivedreamz818]

Lol thank you soo much everyone. Things are starting to look up for me, hopefully with in the next few days i will be making money again and working. Once I can get an income comming in again it will be worlds easier

[Yazoo]

Thats good, hun. I am glad things are starting to look up for you :) Just keep staying strong hun :D

[Seductivedreamz818]

I will raven. Thank you very much. I have been job hunting and have some things that look promising, found somewhere to live just in case I have to move out, now if only i could get my mod I am working on to co operate with me, then everything would be great lol, but that is a discussion for the modding forum or inbox. I am hoping to be hearing back from a few jobs I applied at very soon. Got a couple that I am excited for too, like guitar center (I dont think i would ever go home if i got the job there).