As you may or may not know, I am not confident in myself and am indeed afraid of people.

This tends to lead me when I make my Sim self to not only put Childish, Artistic and Animal Lover, but Coward and Shy, with Computer Whiz and Gatherer as augmented traits.

Sadly, this problem goes deeper than current issues, because I have a history of issues I wish I could work out sooner in therapy.

However, therapy is currently an issue I have to work on at a different location in time and space.

But my painfully introverted personality is something I wish I could change.

It's difficult for me to udnerstand introversion since I am its opposite. You do, however, have my sympathy. I cannot imagine living in a world where chatting to and interacting with people easily is difficult (I do it all the time). It must make life difficult at times.

Extroverts, of course, get a buzz off interaction with people and when they don't get that, it can make them miserable. That's not such an issue for me but my bestie, who is even more extrovert than I am (which is saying something), will get quite depressed without human contact.

I don't really think I'd change much about myself. The only thing I can think of is my introversion. In college (16-18) I got quite comfortable with people, so I was louder and friendlier as a form of 'getting over my introversion', but one of my college friends mentioned years later that everyone found me "annoying", which is sad, because now if I'm not loud around them - suddenly I'm "boring" or "moody". I've found places to fit in though, and almost everyone in my class knows me because I will make polite conversation with people (provided they start it first!), so to be honest.. I wouldn't really change it.

I actually crave interaction, but I had screwed up so many first impressions, that I fear failure to ever get a friend.

My personality is really hard to pin. I have introverted and extroverted traits, but most of my introverted traits were acquired from years of abuse and neglect from my half-sister, the students and faculty at various schools, and more often than not, complete strangers.

This has been weighing me down for years. I am only 10 days away from telling my therapist all that I want to change.

I think there are many people who are a mix of both. As I said, I have less of a problem with periods of lack of interaction, probably because I do also have strong (introverted) traits which help with that (I can stand my own company for days at a time for example and often look forward to periods without others (peace and quiet = bliss)). So I'd say I don't crave it - I'd guess that's something more associated with a shy person. Plus you need to remember extroverts are more than capable of initiating contact at any time (goes with the territory) so they often have their fix, I'd guess, before they know they have a need. I mean if I want to talk to someone, usually all I have to do is go outside my front door and speak to someone who is passing by (might be more of a problem if you live in the country of course). I do get a big buzz off being very social though. It can be extraordinarily energising. When I'm in the mood for it there's nothing that's more fun.

Why wait ten days? You could start making that change today and in ten days you could be different. Nothing ever gets done unless people do it.

Maybe give myself a solid confidence boost in social settings, and remove some clumsiness. Perhaps add a bit of goal-orientedness as well. And wipe away at least half of the procastrination my brain is so fond of, so I could get things done faster and more effective. Things like that.

Most of the time I want to change everything about my personality, especially how neurotic I am. And how I'm super shy and scared of everyone, which makes socializing very difficult. I don't mind being introverted, but my sensory issues make it hard to process noise, too much going on, people talking, etc., and I usually just want to stay away from everything and everyone. But, I guess I don't really consider that part of my personality, it's something that's stifled the real me.

On the less negative side, I do admire my own tenacity. It's been very difficult to figure out what's wrong and how to fix it, and to keep trying everyday.

I hate that I'm so full of fear and worry ALL THE TIME.
I'm so shy and introverted because I'm very self-conscious and have very low self-esteem. It probably stems from fear and worry of being judged. I'm so shy I have extreme discomfort talking on the phone or going through a drive-thru. Forums are the only place I can be extroverted, because for some reason, text isn't that scary and I hide behind a screen name. On FB where people know who I am, I'm silent.
I'm scared to travel because I'm scared that the plane might crash and I end up as meat chunks strewn amongst mangled airplane parts. Or that I get mangled in a fatal car crash. Got a road trip planned in late July and already worried if I'll make it back unscathed.
Just being human is scary to me. I'm medical phobic, tomophobic, carcinophobic, hypochondriac, you name it, if it has anything to do with deterioration of health, I'm terrified of it. If I hear any story of anyone having any kind of medical problem which isn't congenital (meaning anyone can get it), I freak the fuck out and never forget it. I wish I could be AI in a robot body.
I'm also scared of making any kind of decision, for fear I will regret it. I will usually do nothing and stay status quo, for fear of making a wrong decision. Then I end up regretting doing nothing. Damned if I do, damned if I don't.

The worry, fear, and anxiety all the time make me pretty depressed a lot, and in turn, makes me worry that I'm missing out on a lot of life. I think if I could lose the fear, I could be a much happier person.

I wish I wasn't so lazy and easily stressed. Girl I work with has two part-time jobs AND go to school. I work one part-time job and I think juggling work and school would drive me insane. If I did more stuff, was more knowledgeable, and could actually drive longer distances, maybe I'd be better girlfriend material.
I wish interacting for me felt more natural. 99% of the time, I feel like I have to go totally fake when I'm socializing so that other people won't give me a hard time.

From when I said it, I was talking about the therapy office, which the overload of cases is choking the system.

Normally and ideally, I would be seen every 2 weeks, but due to the flux of patients coming in and overloading the case loads of the staff of therapists, they spaced it out to every 6 weeks, which some of you in general noticed a deteriorated state I have taken on.

I will call them in the morning to schedule a sooner appointment, transfer me to another therapist with a lighter load and get the help I need.

I hate when my foul humor of a mood drags everyone down with me.

I think you are mixing up extrovert, introvert, shyness and social anxiety. At its most basic introverts recharge by being alone and extroverts recharge when around other people. It is not a bad thing to be an introvert or a good thing to be an extrovert. But too many extroverts think being an introvert is a bad thing, we say- leave us to our peace! To me you sound more like an extrovert who is shy with social anxiety and other issues. Not all introverts are shy, not all have a fear of people, some are indeed very confident but still remain happiest surrounded by peace and quiet.

There are probably lots of things that I'd like to change about myself if I really thought about it. I hate myself when I'm angry, or grumpy, I feel bad for others around me, and I don't like the feeling of anger itself.

At the moment I just wish that finding love with a man wasn't so important to me. Whenever there is a man on the scene (and there hasn't been one for a long time), it seems to take over most of my thoughts for some reason.

I'd rather just change everyone else's personalities to better suit my own.

I'm definielty a lazy shit, and when there are deadlines and work piling up I quickly go in to the "fuck this shit" attitude and go have a nap instead

Hi everyone, this is a interesting thread, and to be honest its nice to see I'm not alone with some of my personality traits that I wish to change.

I have a lot of anxiety issues, constantly worrying about different things and people, to the point where I have have had frequent anxiety/panic attacks. There are reasons why this happens, things from my past that I can't stop from affecting my thoughts.

It causes me to hide behind helping others, I like helping others but in the end it puts me in a worse position. I've tried to do this new concept of my persona, my alternative self, the side I don't like, the one that is causing a lot of the anxiety. I am currently trying to analyse myself and know where my issues some from so that I can begin to accept it and move on.

A lot easier said then done but I hope it helps.

I have been trying to be nicer to myself instead of beating myself up--beating myself up over mistakes makes me feel worse and adds to anxiety and depression. Instead of calling myself "stupid" or everything else like that, I'm trying to tell myself things like, "That's alright, easy mistake to make; just do a little different next time until something works," and try to remember that I'm human and that I'll inevitably do something dumb every day without meaning to. Basically, like I told a friend with anxiety, I try treating myself like a new person at work who still doesn't know the ropes but wants to learn and do better. How we treat ourselves and how we feel about ourselves seriously affects our personality.

BringMeSugar - I had a bad tendency to beat myself up. This issue came up again after my date online broke up after 2 chat sessions.

I had a fair share of breakups ending with me bully myself into contemplating.

I wish I wasn't so damn sensitive or emotional. And stress and I have become the best of friends.

I don't know. I wish I knew how to socialise 'naturally'. Small talk doesn't come easy to me and I absolutely hate it. I wish I wasn't so shy and introverted either. Basically, I wish I was like most "normal" 18 year old girls, despite their gossipy, shallow nature.

I would get rid of my tendency to procrastinate. (Which reminds me, it's time to take down that 2013 calendar in the kitchen. And no, this is not a joke.)
But I'm happy being an introvert. You start an interesting conversation, and I will join in (as long as there are not a lot of people, especially ones I don't know, involved.) Or we can sit together in silence. That's fine with me, too. (Of course, sitting in silence usually ends up with the other person starting a conversation because they don't like sitting in silence, but that's ok, too.)

LaylaRox, "Normal" means being like everybody else. But everyone is a unique individual, which means that to be "normal" is to be a unique individual. Therefore, it's being like someone else that's actually weird. Don't EVER wish to be shallow and gossipy just because you think it's normal. You are you. Learn to smile and say hello. Learn to listen to people. (Too many people don't listen. They just use the space while you are talking to figure out what they want to say next.) React appropriately. And you will have all the conversation skills you will ever really need outside of a relationship. (A relationship requires you to also learn to mention important things before the last minute, even if the topic has not first been mentioned by the other person.)
From personal experience, I can tell you that you can be perceived as a very witty conversationalist if you simply actually listen to the other person and let them do most of the talking.

I procrastinate the shit out of everything. I really wish I could change that. I'm getting better but it's definitely something that I do automatically so I don't always think about it.

Also, I'd like to learn how to walk away from arguments. I have a very... Abrasive(?) personality. Either that or know-it-all. Either way, I only engage in arguments when I'm 100% sure I'm right so it's frustrating when someone can't see my point of view. In cases when I know for a fact that I'm right because my position is backed by facts and statistics, I'd like to learn to stop trying to force people to agree with something that they obviously don't want to agree with. I have a bad habit of arguing people down over simple things.

Andalsoplus I am incredibly sensitive and emotional. Like it's ridiculous. I cry about good things, I cry about bad things, I cry about everything. It gets so bad sometimes my boyfriend can't even discuss really important things because he's afraid of how I'll handle it. I'm really trying to get better at that.

My shyness.

I know I'm gonna sound really pathetic but I don't really care, at least you've had someone to breakup with. I'm so horribly shy that I doubt I'll ever find anyone. I just can't talk to girls, and no matter what I just can't get over it. I guess another factor is a fear of rejection. So to get back on topic, I wish I wasn't so shy and maybe my life wouldn't completely suck.

Everything and I would start my live over from day one. As it stands I as it stand I am an awful person and my life is a train wreck that can't be fixed and once my parents die I will end up starving to death alone on the streets and no one will notice and I can't blame them. I am not worth noticing and there isn't enough time left to fix everything that is wrong with me. Every time I try to move forward in my life a massive roadblock pops ups that can't be passed. People with mt parent's genetic background should not be allowed to breed because their children are worthless trash that just drag the whole world down. Everyone would be better off if I had never been born.

So in short there is not one thing I would keep the same.