whenever i open up buy mode in the sims 4 i dont have any categories to choose from and it is all just a big list that doesnt even have everything on it and whenever i open options all the things say labelname and idk what ting is what

Have you taken your whole mods folder out and tested the game without any CC or mods?
Sounds like it could be a mod issue....Always good to test the game without any CC or mods first that way others here can help you further once a mod or cc issue has been ruled out...

when i take out the mods it works but i dont know how to find which mod is doing it i have a lot

Unfortunately its a process of elimination.
Add half of your mods to the game. Then run the sims 4. If it works fine then you know its a mod in the other half.... Then you just have to add a few at a time until you narrow it down.

There is a tool called Mod conflict device (here on MTS 4 ) but I don't bother with it as it shows all my mods as having a conflict. Which is odd as my game is running perfectly fine...... Process of elimination works best.

a quicker way to find the conflicting mod is to disable scripting mods and see if your problem is gone. hope I helped.

Not exactly a solution as not all mods are script mods....