Social phobia/anxiety is tricky to deal with. I think I've had it in varying degrees ever since elementary school (I was bullied and had few friends. It became a defense mechanism to stay away from people, and I also had troubles trusting people). I'm usually a somewhat social person, and in small enough groups or under circumstances where I feel comfortable, I doubt anyone would even guess I had a problem. But once something sets it off I become shy and quiet, and the anxiety takes over completely. I don't even dare open my mouth. It's an overwhelming feeling. Maybe I want to say something, but I can't. My mind races, finding every single stupid reason of why I'm not supposed to talk, stomping down the rational part of my brain and refusing to listen to reason. The worst is in settings where some people are supposed to judge my skills or something (such as school situations - oral exams or evaluations). If it gets bad enough I start crying, and before I know it I'm so scared and anxious I can barely think. It doesn't always happen, but when it does it's horrible.
Much the same happens when I'm going to answer a phone, or make a phone call. It's like my brain goes blank, so wiped clean I even have troubles remembering my own name, let alone what I'm supposed to say. It's like having an acute case of aphasia... If I answer the phone without thinking or if I take the phone call without thinking too much through what I'm supposed to say, It's much easier. The trouble is doing it without thinking it through, while at the same time knowing what I'm supposed to say.
Luckily my social anxiety does not apply to the web, as long as I'm allowed to be more or less anonymous.
I probably have more fears than these, but these ones are my "main" fears. Most of these probably aren't phobias, but they definitely make me, well, scared.
- Elevators. Ever since an incident happened with me getting stuck in an elevator with lots of people. My fear of elevators is also why I refuse to go inside elevators, I just usually use the stairs when the gap between the floors aren't big, and when I do use elevators, I usually take the one with the fewest people.
- Falling. I realized that not only falling from heights make me scared, also that even if I fall from a bike (no matter how small it is) make me scared as well.
- Cats. I find them really cute, but their claws intimidate me.
- Insects. Not the butterflies, ladybugs and the small ones of course, but the ones the size of the light switch are just..scary.
I probably have more fears than these, but these ones are my "main" fears.
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I can take pretty much anything. Heights, not fond of but they don't really terrify me. Needles, I'm a diabetic and take 2 to 4 shots a day, so no phobia there. Horror films mostly bore me. I'm not scared of - just hate clowns. Like the dark for the most part. There is really nothing that scares me, but if I see a single roach, I run screaming. My cats try to play with it if they find one - in which case they are disowned for the next week - but I'm too busy running in the opposite direction screaming my lungs out and mowing down whomever's in my path. I can't sleep if there is even a hint of one alive anywhere near my house and have been known to use a half a can of bug spray on just one.
Many, many years ago in my early teens we lived with my sister while waiting to move into a new house. I stayed on her couch and in the middle of the night I felt something drop on my head. Absently, I reached up...and you will never, ever, see anyone move as fast as I did in that moment. My head was flopping everywhere and I was screaming at the top of my lungs. The entire house was up - my nephew thought it was hilarious - and I would not go back into the living room until it was dead, the body had been decimated and it was on its way to the city sewage plant.
Even then, I didn't sleep for the rest of the night.
Cordelia, in one of my favorite shows Angel, put it eloquently in one episode where she found out her new apartment was full of roaches: Rm w/a Vu
Cordelia: Get this. I tried to call Doyle—I have sunk that low—and there was no answer. So here I am. Not that you were the last resort, it's just that I had nowhere else left to go. Roaches! Live ones, dead ones, all skinny feet and creepy antlers.
Cordelia: Oh my God, I wonder how many stowed away in that bag!
I have telephonophobia. To the point where I will have a panic attack if the phone rings and my boyfriend isn't home. I have never answered the phone in my life, and even with caller ID I can't do it. I have made one phone call, that was to arrange a job interview (obviously I missed the call, as I couldn't answer the phone when they rang) and I was sat there crying, shaking, trying not to throw up and gripping my boyfriends hand so tight I thought I'd break it.
It's got so bad that at 22 I still can't drive, because if I drive I'll have to get car insurance, and to have car insurance I'll have to phone someone. They'll have to talk to me because it would be my policy. Even thinking about this is making me shakey and I'm sweating a little.
I think it started when I was four years old. My mum got a phonecall one night, and went into another room and shut the door. She came out crying, turns out the phonecall was saying my Nan had died. I would assume that's where this all came from, but I barely remember her as I was so young and she lived quite far away.
The whole thing is just ridiculous, and I get so angry at myself when I decide to try and overcome my phobia by ringing my Mum or something, but I just can't do it!
I've often thought of going to a doctor and finding out if there's a group I can be sent to, or someone I can see, but it's extremely difficult to get a doctors appointment when you can't ring up when they first open I have to walk down and make an appointment, and sometimes have to do it several days in a row because all the appointments have been taken by people who can use a phone.
Not only that, but I have this fear that I'm overreacting and the doctor will laugh at me if I go when I'm not at deaths door (even though he's the nicest guy in the world).
I also have a slight social fear, I wouldn't call it phobia, because it's not that bad, but I start to panic a bit when I have to talk one-on-one with someone. Two or more people and I can't shut up, no fear of public speaking or making a fool of myself, but if it's just me and one other person, I clam up. The only person I can do one-on-one with, is my boyfriend. I can't even talk to my parents or sisters unless there's someone else in the room, so I have to try and scedule visits where we'll all be there or I can't do it.
germly_teddie, I hope you can find someone to help - that sounds miserable
I have a weird fear of heights - as long as there's something non-see-through between my legs and the height, I'm fine. Big stone castle walls for example - I can happily look down at the moat/valley some way below. See-through barrier or no barrier - not good. I have to stay well away from the edge. It's a bit stupid as it's not like my ankles can see, but there you are. I suppose fears aren't terribly logical.
My other fear is trains. Not inside trains, I can go on them quite happily, it's trains from the outside and track level. So I suppose you could say I'm afraid of railway crossings. My Mum is a bit too: once we were crossing one on holiday and the siren started to go and we both screamed and sprinted to the side as fast as we possibly could while my grandparents stood there and laughed.
Im pretty claustrophobic, whenever my boyfriend and i are just messing around and wrestling or whatever, sometimes he pins my arms down and i FREAK. THE. HELL. OUT.
I have a phobia of IVs. Specifically, the IV moving inside of me. I get them kinda often, (most recently a few weeks ago) and the idea of me moving and the IV ripping out or moving in my vein or someone touching it makes me sick. My mom LOOKED at my IV when i was in the hospital a few weeks ago and i got sick.
I have an issue with bugs in my house. Just no. No.
I hate deep water, like oceans and murky lakes and even deep pools.
I have bad panic attacks when i sleep somewhere other than my house or with people i really trust. I really hate this one
At times the world can seem an unfriendly and sinister place, but believe us when we say that there is much more good in it than bad. All you have to do is look hard enough. And what might seem to be a series of unfortunate events may, in fact, be the first steps of a journey. – Lemony Snicket
I'm most afraid of small holes .. makes me shudder ..
Trypophobia. I have it too and it's awful. It's awful because there's no way to know if you'll see something that'll bother you, and it's awful because people don't understand what the hell you're talking about. I just saw a picture on Reddit of drained spaghetti-o's in a pattern and it freaked me out. Then someone linked to a picture of tiny toads emerging from a large toad and I'm pretty sure that ruined my whole day/night. I also saw a branch in a craft store and it scared me so much I ran into another aisle. The cell unit in biology was hell.
Trypophobia. I have it too and it's awful. It's awful because there's no way to know if you'll see something that'll bother you, and it's awful because people don't understand what the hell you're talking about.
I know what you mean - two weeks ago our shop was being refitted and the builders had taken up the carpet tiles. The only problem was that when the light was on in the cellar, it shone up through a knothole in one of the floorboards and that was what drew my attention to it!
The way I dealt with it is nearly as ridiculous as the problem itself: I stuck a neon green Post-It note over the hole - it was more obvious afterwards but it no longer bugged the heck out of me!
No need to use my full name, "Selly" will do just fine.
I have a lot of phobias. Many of them have already been mentioned, but I am only going to mention the more severe ones I have. I am claustrophobic and I hate crowds. We went to Las Vegas on New Years Eve one year and the entire strip was filled with people who wanted to watch the fireworks. We were stuck outside of the Aladdin Casino because there was no room to move. I had to look up at the sky so I wouldn't freak out. Thankfully, we were outside. If we were stuck inside of the casino it would have been worse. I would start to feel like I couldn't breathe and I would panic. I really can't handle being in enclosed spaces whether there is a crowd or not, but crowds make it feel more enclosed. I won't get on a crowded bus or subway. I can get on a crowded elevator, because it's only temporary, but I have to stand right next to the door. However, if the elevator were to get stuck for some reason, I would freak out.
I don't like bugs either and I live in Arizona, so will occasionally find a scorpion in my apartment every now and then.
I can handle heights as long as they are stable. I can walk out onto a balcony of a tall building and look down. I don't do ladders because ladders can fall. I also hate Ferris Wheels because I went on one when I was a kid and the person who took me on it was rocking the seat we were sitting in.
I also have a fear of vomiting. Does anyone else have that? I can't even handle seeing or hearing someone else who is vomiting. I apologise if someone already mentioned it because I admit I didn't read through this entire thread.
Hmm... I don't really think that what I'm going to say is really a phobia, more like something I dislike and have a 'kind of' fear to.
I really dislike stairs, in that kind of way that if I don't have anything to hold onto, I might trip and fall backwards. I get weird thoughts of falling if I'm forced to walk up really thin stairs though, haha.