Well... not me... my sims. I'll explain the situation.

She is the only daugter of the couple I started to play with. He is one of the YA sims from the CAS list. I liked his face and his traits so I choose him to be with the lovely daugter my sims have had. So I moved him into the town just in time to meet her when she has became a YA. Then he moved into her house (proposed by her father).

I made them have a lot of children very quickly. The whole family ate ambrosia and the same day she got pregnant. They didn't get married, not even boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. I've just wanted him to still be the family friend who just moved in and then... an "accident" hapens. After that first "accident" (a little boy) was the second one 3 days later (3 little girls). The whole family kept living together. I have planed that the grandparents (elders) will stop working and help to raise the four grandchildren.

During that time it was all for the children. No time for getting married. But with grandpa and grandma helping all the time they had enough time for woohoo and such once in while.

When the first children became a kid, I started to look for a proposal of any kind from any side, for at least became a couple, but there was no kind of interaction showing up. I though it was because he had the "Commitment Issues" trait and he didn't want even a girlfriend. So I used the "Mid-Life Crisis" to change that trait for "Family-Oriented". There's no change. I've spent a lot of time with the romantic interactions, building up the relationship over and over... and there's nothing. They love each other so much that I can try for a baby whit just 2-4 clicks any time, but they can't get married.

His treats (now) are: Athletic, Charismatic, Daredevil, Family-Oriented and Loves the Outdoors.
Hers are: Angler, Brave, Green Thumb, Hopeless Romantic and Loves the Outdoors.

I think they're pretty compatible, why I can't make them get married?.

I've tried make them spend the whole day with romantic interactions... Nothing.
I've tried moving him out, then invite him to her place. The "ask to move in" appears with just 2-3 social interactions, with the romantic ones only woohoo and babies but no proposals.
And now I don't know what to do. It's not that marriage is so very important or anything, but I want them to be related/conected in the family tree... And the more I can't the more I want them to be married.

Any ideas...

Have you tried moving him out, and then have her ask him to move in? If he moves in, they have a few romantic interactions and then maybe going steady would show up and then getting engaged and then marriage proposal under the romantic interactions?

Was the girl in a relationship before the CAS guy?? do you have WA and 1.8 patch??

First of all thank you for the answers. (I know that my english is just bad. Sorry.)



Yes. I've alredy tried that and it worked, but only for the moving in thing. And after 30-40 romantic interactions, nothing nearly engagement shows up, just woohoo and try for a baby.



Yes, she was! When she was a teen she had a boyfriend. The son of... I don't remenber the name of the family right now, but one day (when she was still a teen) they just moved and leave the town. I couldn't break up their relationship before that hapened.

So... it's because that old boyfriend that she can't get married? Is there any way to dump him now when he left ages ago?

Ah! I have the 1.8 patch and I run my game on a mac.

Wait next week the new patch comes out Feb 2nd. Hopefully this is one of the bugs it fixes.

I had same thing before. guy and girl had romantic interest but romantic interaction gave negative moodlet. Here is what I did and it worked:
You basicly start of with friendly until " Person A thinks Person B is funny"(or something close to that)
Then you switch to romantic interactions till they reach'Person A thinks Person be is being very irresistible" Options such as " Propose going steady" and After that" Propose marriage" Should Appear.

Hope it helps. If it doesn't try moving him/her out and then back in.

I already tried all those things, but doesn't work.




Ok, thank you for the information. I'll wait. Hope that fixes my gone old boyfriend issue.

Their both still YA and it would be great to celebrate their birthday with a wedding party :D

You could try polygamy patch... maybe it will help for the old boyfriend thing.




Ok, thank you for the information. I'll wait. Hope that fixes my gone old boyfriend issue.

Their both still YA and it would be great to celebrate their birthday with a wedding party :D[/QUOTE]

I'm having the same issue with Mortimer and Bella. They've had 2 kids, at least 5 days with non-stop romantic interactions, moved in together twice, and still not even an option to go steady. I thought the fact that Mortimer had 2 previous relationships (one with Ayesha which boggled me) and still had other love interests was the problem, but even after I invited all of his love interests over and asked to be just friends he still will not officially hook up with Bella! So frustrating..

Thank you. I think I'm going to wait till the new patch and if that doesn't fix it I'll try the polygamy mod. But I don't like the idea to have that mod on my game very much...

What if... I instal the mod, it solves the problem, and then I remove it?...

Well. I'll try and see.


Too bad... I just realized: "Multiple marriages for all - updated for 1.7.9 & WA".
I have the 1.8 and no WA. It seems the poligamy thing it's not an option for me.

Last edited by Patry. : 30th Jan 2010 at 5:24 AM.

If one of your sims is/was in a relationship boyfriend/girlfriend or higher and you did not end that relationship, you will not be able to have another boyfriend/girlfriend or higher relationship. Boyfriend/girlfriend relationships or higher set "Partner" and you can only have one partner at a time, unless you use a mod which allows such things. This is not a bug, it's the way the game is set up.

look in the girls' relationships and see if the old boyfriend is still there, if so is he listed as a boyfriend? If you see him, you can invite him over, choose "Mean" then "BreakUp". That should solve the problem.

Otherwise you may need to find another mod which will allow you to click on the sim and remove the relationship like Nraas SuperComputer.

Yes, I already know that. But the problem is that her (ex)boyfriend's family left the town a long time ago. So since then all of them desapered from her "contact list" (or whatever) and she appears like single/with no partner. He and their relationship doesn't "exist" in my game anymore, but anyway I can't have her get married.

Well... The new patch didn't solved my problem, and now... What can I do????

Somebody help me, please.

Well, Awesome Mod has a "Drop all old romances" thing for this very situation I think.. not sure if you use any core mods, if so, look to see if there's any bugfix mode with it?

If you don't already use core mods, you could (when AM is updated) go get AM, use it long enough to trash all old relationship strings, and then get rid of it perhaps? Or even if you do, just maybe get rid of the usual mod long enough to see if AM will fix?

THough currently AM is not updated for new patch.

I'm having the same problem, can't get married. The two sims are ones that I created from scratch. They have never had previous relationships. One (the male) is family oriented. The female doesn't have any traits that should conflict with being in a relationship or getting married. I thought maybe if she got pregnant with his baby, the option for at least being committed to each other would be available...NOT! So, I don't know what to do. Maybe one of our creators can give us some ideas, being they know the game so well.

Oh, I suppose no one can get their hacks to work with the new Stuff pack???? If anyone knows how to jump start that again, please share...thank you!

Thank you bakafox. I'll keep an eye for the AM update. I only have the mods "No Foot Tapping While Waiting For Clear Route!" and "No Mosaic". I don't know if those are core mods but I'll remove them if I need to.

I hope for the problem to realy be that old boyfriend issue, because if it's like mspurple54 is saying...

There isn't any hack/mod like "easy marriage" or something like that, is it?

Am having the same problem as this too - a cas sims with no previous relationships trying to marry christopher steel who also had no previous relationships

to begin with they were able to have romantic interactions that worked ie they got more romantic options unlock and they tried for baby straight away - now i can never get higher romantic interactions to unlock which is why i guess that the propose option is not coming up

really really want to marry these two sims!

am wondering whether anyone had this problem and managed to fix it?
thanks

edit - problem solved

Last edited by ikbod : 20th May 2010 at 9:23 PM. Reason: problem solved

The only good way to fix this I can think of is to get the computer Super computer mod. Change their relationship to aquantiances then drag them back to best friends then start off romantic interactions till you get the propose going steady, then next day go for get enganged then married. Or if you wanted to make it really easy and speedy just change their relationship level straight to married. But you'll miss out on lots of wish fullfilments possibly.

This is a known bug caused by WA. To fix it, you will need AwesomeMod's "Fixall" command. To keep it from happening again, you need to KEEP USING AWESOMEMOD.

ACCEPT NO KEWIAN-BASED SUBSTITUTES!

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I tried using awesomemod with the fixall command, but it appears that my sim is still bugged. I am using late night with the 6.1 patch. The first time I ran the fixall command it said that it fixed one buggy sim. I can get the sim to propose going steady, but even after many (50+) romantic interactions and the relationship bar filled, no option to propose marriage is coming up. Is there anything else I can do to fix this, or am I not doing something right here?

If you're able to propose going steady, everything is working normally. Your sims are just being moody and temperamental like that. Try maxing out the romantic STC, and never do a non-romantic action during a romance progression, or you instantly kill the process and have to start over.

How many romantic actions do I have to do before I get the option? I tried 50 romantic actions in a row (all kisses and even another 30 in a row with varying romantic actions), with their needs maxed out via the shift click on mailbox> make happy cheat, and in the upper left, it says "extremely irresistable".

Are there other ways of fixing this other than the fixall command? I would even go for something that wipes all relationships completely if it means fixing this, as I can't think of anything else to try.

Your sim is bugged, but what about the other one?

Open your game and do Save As... a new filename. This creates a new version of your Neighbourhood that you can fiddle with without damaging your old save. Now you can safely go into the other sim's house and check on their relationship panel.

So the fixall command only repairs sims in the active household? And what would I be looking for in the relationship panel?